Intimate Communication

Deuteronomy 6

Some frightening facts have been released about the increasing sexual activity among preteen girls.

“Agency counselors throughout the country are overwhelmed by these kids,” states Dr. Gerry Oliva, a medical director in San Francisco. Consequently, the agency is developing a special program just for girls nine to twelve who are “sexually active and need advice.” The simple fact is this: Telling a girl the facts of life when she’s ten or eleven may be too late!

You who are parents need to think it over . . . to come to terms with this business of communicating openly, tactfully, and intelligently with your children in the areas of intimacy. lt’s a parental task that must be handled with great care and wisdom—but it must be handled. Obviously, it is not to be directed only toward the girls, but to boys as well. Nor should it be communicated only by mothers, but by both parents. God’s beautiful plan regarding conception and birth needs to be shared from a balanced perspective.

Allow me to put the reluctant parent at ease. Questions from your children regarding sex are as normal as questions regarding science or sports or God, for that matter. Questions are invitations to step carefully into your child’s private thought world.

God has provided you, parents, with the very best teaching model your child needs: affectionate love between you and your mate. No greater influence can mark your child than an honest, warm relationship between you and your spouse that often expresses itself in kisses, embraces, and tenderness.

But that merely prepares the way. Words must accompany actions. Practical, meaningful, accurate information at appropriate times during your child’s growing years is absolutely essential if you want him or her to be intimately healthy, confident, and godly.

Believe me, your youngster will learn about sex. Society offers raw, profane, distorted classes every day. If you ignore it long enough, you won’t have to bother with it at all. In bits and pieces, it will take its own shape . . . the wrong shape, possibly resulting in marital misunderstanding or personal tragedy (dare I say perversion) that could have been prevented.

So before you cop out, it might be wise to blow the dust off that old adage. Something about “an ounce of prevention . . . ”

Sometimes silence can be deadly.

No greater influence can mark your child than an honest, warm relationship between you and your spouse.

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Taken from Day by Day with Charles Swindoll by Charles R. Swindoll. Copyright © 2000 by Charles R. Swindoll, Inc. Used by permission of Thomas Nelson.

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Accuracy, clarity, and practicality all describe the Bible-teaching ministry of Charles R. Swindoll. Chuck is the chairman of the board at Insight for Living and the chancellor of Dallas Theological Seminary. Chuck also serves as the senior pastor of Stonebriar Community Church in Frisco, Texas, where he is able to do what he loves most—teach the Bible to willing hearts. His focus on practical Bible application has been heard on the Insight for Living radio broadcast since 1979.

ఖచ్చితత్వం, స్పష్టత మరియు ఆచరణాత్మకత అన్నీ చార్లెస్ ఆర్. స్విన్డాల్ యొక్క బైబిల్-బోధనా పరిచర్యను వివరిస్తాయి. చక్ ఇన్సైట్ ఫర్ లివింగ్ కు బోర్డు ఛైర్మన్ మరియు డల్లాస్ థియోలాజికల్ సెమినరీకి ఛాన్సలర్. చక్ టెక్సాస్‌లోని ఫ్రిస్కోలోని స్టోన్‌బ్రయర్ కమ్యూనిటీ చర్చ్ యొక్క సీనియర్ పాస్టర్‌గా కూడా పనిచేస్తున్నారు, అక్కడ ఆయన చాలా ఇష్టపడేదాన్ని చేయగలుగుతున్నాడు-ఇష్టపడే హృదయాలకు బైబిల్ నేర్పిస్తున్నారు. ఆచరణాత్మక బైబిల్ అనువర్తనంపై ఆయన దృష్టి 1979 నుండి ఇన్సైట్ ఫర్ లివింగ్ రేడియో ప్రసారంలో వినబడుచున్నది.