I want to confess that for too long in my ministry I took unfair advantage of Job’s wife, especially since she was not present to defend herself. I think it was probably due to immaturity on my part. Furthermore, I hadn’t been married long enough to know better than to say those things. I cannot leave this one snapshot of Mrs. Job in the story without clarifying the record in her defense.
Now that you’ve seen the incredible disaster they shared, isn’t it a little easier to understand how she could suggest, “Job, darling, let’s just pull the plug. Don’t go on. You can’t keep living like this, I can’t stand it. Curse God, and let Him take you home to be with Him.” I think so. She’s reached her limit and is willing to let him go. I’m not justifying the woman’s reasoning as much as trying to understand it.
Always guard your words when your husband is going through terribly hard times. I want to confess something about us men. Mainly, I want you to remember: going through sustained hard times weakens most men. For some reason, hardship seems to strengthen women; we admire you for that. But we men are weakened when times of affliction hit and stay. In our weakened condition we lose our objectivity, sometimes our stability. Our discernment is also skewed. Our determination lags. We become vulnerable, and most men don’t know how to handle themselves in a vulnerable state of mind. So in light of all of this—hear me—we need your clear perspective, wisdom, and spiritual strength. Most of all, we need you to pray for us as you’ve never prayed. We need not only your prayers, we need your emotional support. We need you to take the initiative and step up.
We need your words of confidence and encouragement. We even find it hard to say, “I need you right now.” My wife could tell you that she lived with me for our first ten years of marriage before she ever thought I needed her. I finally admitted it and learned how to say it. In the lonely hours of a man’s great trial, nobody’s words mean more to him than his wife’s words. That is one of the God-given reasons you and your partner were called to be together. When we husbands lose our way, you wives help us find our way back.