Three Cheers for Graduates!

If you are graduating this year, good for you! Graduation represents finishing . . . something a lot of people find hard to do. To broaden the words of the great apostle Paul, you have “finished the course.” I congratulate you. Your IQ, your exam grades or your class of degree do not interest me nearly as much as your gumption to hang in there to the end. You have my respect.

Normally, we tend to give great recognition to those graduates who have finished their university work, and give even louder adulation to those who have earned their master’s or doctoral degrees. Certainly, these are noteworthy accomplishments and deserving of everyone’s applause. But I would like to address those who are finishing school or college and who hope to be matriculating into university in the autumn. I realise you would rather not think about that with a full summer stretching out in front of you, but come September, the new term will begin. So let me encourage you and, hopefully, dare you to make some changes as you accept the challenge of further academic pursuits. I will start with a simple statement.

What you become will be directly linked to three factors:

  1. The decisions you make
  2. The material you read
  3. The friends you choose

I have observed that things such as success, fulfilment, happiness, and contentment don’t just happen. They accompany those who make wise decisions, read the right material, and choose the best friends. It is that third one I want to address. Think with me about friends and friendships.

Solomon’s book of wisdom, the Proverbs, has several things to say about the characteristics of wholesome friendship—four, to be exact.

1.    A friend consistently cares about you.

A friend loves at all times,
And a brother is born for adversity.
—Proverbs 17:17

Unlike those who come and go, depending on fickle moods and whether or not you have money or are becoming popular, true friends keep seeking your highest good. They “love at all times.”

2.    A friend is someone you can talk with openly, honestly, and confidentially.

Oil and perfume make the heart glad,
So a man’s counsel is sweet to his friend.
—Proverbs 27:9

There is something especially delicious about the “counsel” that comes from and is shared with one’s friend. Even his or her criticisms can be trusted.

Wounds from a friend can be trusted.
—Proverbs 27:6 (NIV)

Furthermore, when you talk with a friend, secrets remain secrets. No one—no one—hears about them later on.

3.    Friends are loyal.

Do not forsake your own friend or your father’s friend.
—Proverbs 27:10

When you hit bottom, friends are there. When you win, they celebrate. When you lose, they encourage. When you are troubled or angry or disappointed, they listen without preaching. Even when you are embarrassed about something you did that was dumb, friends don’t make you feel stupid. As Erma Bombeck, the late humourist, once said, when she gave herself a perm that left her hair looking too frizzy, her friend sat with her in the bathroom until it grew out.

4.    Friends make each other better people.

Iron sharpens iron,
So one man sharpens another.
—Proverbs 27:17

As in water face reflects face,
So the heart of man reflects man.
—Proverbs 27:19

What vivid images . . . iron and water. Both beautifully illustrate how another person “sharpens” us and “reflects” us. With a friend, we receive both. Without a friend, we get neither.

So then, in light of all the above, here are several “graduation tips” that will help your future years in university be better than those now in the past. Assuming you are going to choose several new friends—

First, choose one teacher at university to be your mentor.

You will have many teachers. You will be drawn to several. Select one you would like to be your mentor. Study and learn from him or her. You’ll never be sorry. A great teacher who becomes a mentor is one of life’s best gifts.

Second, choose a couple of leaders at church to model.

Your spiritual growth will be accelerated, and your life will be deepened. Best of all, you will come to realise that the Christian life is attainable . . . even by imperfect people.

Third, choose a few friends at university to have fun with.

Go to places, do stuff, enjoy life, and try fun things with your school friends. Relax and laugh a lot. You can’t beat fun.

Fourth, choose to honour your parents.

You’re growing up. That means you need your parents less. And in a few more years, you’ll need them even less. But you will discover that a “need relationship” will be slowly replaced by a growing sense of respect. Let it happen. Don’t fight it. Nobody is in your corner more than your mum and dad. Give them the honour they have earned.

Fifth, choose Christ to be your Lord.

There IS no friend like Jesus. Take Him with you . . . deliberately. Seek His will and read His Word . . . regularly. Proverbs 18:24 tells us of “a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” That’s Jesus.

Those are my “tips” for both honoured graduates and continuing students. Remember: success, fulfilment, happiness, and contentment will be directly linked to wise decisions, healthy reading material, and a tight circle of good friends. Choose only the best friends, since you are inviting them to join the inner, crucial core of your life. You’ll never be sorry.

Copyright © 2013 by Charles R. Swindoll, Inc. All rights are reserved worldwide.
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Accuracy, clarity, and practicality all describe the Bible-teaching ministry of Charles R. Swindoll. Chuck is the chairman of the board at Insight for Living and the chancellor of Dallas Theological Seminary. Chuck also serves as the senior pastor of Stonebriar Community Church in Frisco, Texas, where he is able to do what he loves most—teach the Bible to willing hearts. His focus on practical Bible application has been heard on the Insight for Living radio broadcast since 1979.

ఖచ్చితత్వం, స్పష్టత మరియు ఆచరణాత్మకత అన్నీ చార్లెస్ ఆర్. స్విన్డాల్ యొక్క బైబిల్-బోధనా పరిచర్యను వివరిస్తాయి. చక్ ఇన్సైట్ ఫర్ లివింగ్ కు బోర్డు ఛైర్మన్ మరియు డల్లాస్ థియోలాజికల్ సెమినరీకి ఛాన్సలర్. చక్ టెక్సాస్‌లోని ఫ్రిస్కోలోని స్టోన్‌బ్రయర్ కమ్యూనిటీ చర్చ్ యొక్క సీనియర్ పాస్టర్‌గా కూడా పనిచేస్తున్నారు, అక్కడ ఆయన చాలా ఇష్టపడేదాన్ని చేయగలుగుతున్నాడు-ఇష్టపడే హృదయాలకు బైబిల్ నేర్పిస్తున్నారు. ఆచరణాత్మక బైబిల్ అనువర్తనంపై ఆయన దృష్టి 1979 నుండి ఇన్సైట్ ఫర్ లివింగ్ రేడియో ప్రసారంలో వినబడుచున్నది.